Now I can heal and refuse the legacy. Since the narcissist has no true self-esteem, no stable sense of self, that faade is the most important armor they possess. How to Make a Narcissist Tell the Truth - United We Care I am disappointed by how shallow and self-absorbed many people and today I cried for the live octopus at the fish market and the stray kitten in the street. I was my mothers confidant. My husband just seems to self sabotage.He has gambled money away, shied away from opportunity, has high & lows. Her baby. Temporary or notIll take the small wins. Even though things seemed somewhat okay when we got off the phone, she stewed about it and is now giving the quasi silent treatment. If they get abusive I tell them so and walk away. If he leaves the house you leave the house. She also abuses alcohol and drugs and may have Borderline too. He died 3 years ago so her total obsession with me and my family has ramped up to crazy levels. I was 6 weeks into a new relationship when I was either given the beginning of a long dose of the silent treatment (were at about a week and a half now) or Ive been completely abandoned. Im exhausted of being made to feel like Im a bad parent. She either didnt or was unable to..but the answer is NOT for you to become the one taking care of her. Obviously each narcissist is an individual as you and I. My God!! Manage Settings Because the narcissist has created this perfect image of themselves, they cannot accept any criticism of their actions. Boss didnt like that, and even though my husband was good at what he did, major corporations dont want unstable people working on multi million dollar accounts. But she does not know I know and am aware! It just hurts them too much to come to terms about their own mistakes that are given to them in form of mirroring. Exactly! She got a ticket so that is on her record! Before you decide to confront someone with a personality disorder, you need to ask yourself,What is the outcome I am hoping for?. she feigned sickness the majority of the time i was w her to avoid whatever she wanted to. If youre hoping that when confronted they will suddenly realize the error of their ways and seek healing, youll likely be disappointed. Narcissists are superficial individuals who derive validation through external sources. The world is full of narcissistic young people nowadays, much because of parents who havent set enough healthy boundaries. Still, no one says a thing. What about a narcissistic adult son? He puts on a show for everyone and they think he is such a nice guy! If only they knew what a total fraud is really is. His ex wife was threatening to affect my personal life, and i told him that he needs to draw boundaries else i am out. (I went nc on my sisters because they are sympathizers and flying monkeys.) We feel everything ! And some of us seem to get it from both sides and while Ive forgiven my mother and cope the best I can with her high energy and off the wall ways, now I have to cope with a daughter who rages uncontrollably at me for minor offenses like saying Hello. and on some days it seems my just breathing sets her off.